When attempting something you’ve never done before or really any large goal it’s easy to think that you don’t have enough time, you’re short on money or you don’t have the skills to make it happen.
Those are the three scapegoats we tend reach for, because they’re easy and people accept them as legit. But time and time again we’re proven wrong.
When your coworker runs a marathon with 10 year old shoes you see that you don’t need to shell out $150 on new Nikes to start training.
When you learn that your favorite author wrote the book on their phone during their 20 minute commute on the bus you see that you don’t need to quit your job in order to find the time.
And when you watch your friend continue to put herself out there, try, succeed and grow incrementally over the years (right before your eyes) you see that you don’t need to have it all figured out before you get started.
The thing is – it’s never the time, money or skills that are really holding you back. There are million ways to get started before you have the perfect situation or all of your ducks in a row.
Before I tell you the real barriers to you moving forward let’s just get one thing out of the way. If you’ve been making excuses or procrastinating on starting your next project or going after what you want take a pause here to ask yourself.
Do I even really want this?
Because it’s totally cool if you don’t.
Maybe you decided to buy a house 5 years ago and you’re a completely different person now. Maybe you only started applying, because all of your friends were going to grad school. Maybe your Dad always wanted you to follow in his footsteps and write something great, but you hate writing.
You have my full permission (even though all you need is your own) to just stop right now.
But if you DO want to move forward, these are the real barriers that might be getting in your way.
You know how it goes. You start in on something, do it for 5 or 10 minutes before you (without thinking) check Instagram, login to your email or find yourself staring out the window. Not only do you waste time, but you run out of time. You feel like you had a busy day yet when you think back to what you actually got done, you draw a blank. Distraction is usually the reason that you look back on an entire year and wonder why you didn’t accomplish what you set out to. Distraction comes in many forms, not just technology. It’s really anything that pulls you away from what you intended to be doing.
The antithesis to distraction is focus. And focus will always bring you closer to the finish line. Whenever possible work to extend the amount of time you can focus on just one thing at a time. It will take practice, but it’s so worth it.The antithesis to distraction is focus. And focus will always bring you closer to the finish line. Click To Tweet
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Tony Robbins always says that “complexity is the enemy of execution” and boy is he spot on. When you find yourself feeling stuck it can often be linked to confusion about how exactly to move forward. Maybe you have a clear vision of what you want, but you’re unsure of the first or first five steps. Perhaps you know what you’re good at, where your skills shine or what you love doing, but you don’t know how to make it a real career or a life that you love.
You know you want travel, write, contribute, create…you just don’t know where to start or how.
This is SO common. In fact, it’s the second most common barrier I come across with my coaching clients. Like you, they’re driven, productive and willing to do the work they just literally don’t know what to do. The simple answer is to just start researching it. That can look like asking your peers, mentors and even family members. It can look like checking out books from the library on people who have done something similar or even a simple Google search. Get your hands on anything you can find about what you want to do. Ask a million questions and take good notes.
Research is not a commitment, so just dig in.
A quick warning – if you’re a millennial who’s had internet access since you were like 12 then I know you’re not lacking in information. You’re lacking wisdom and guidance. Most of the time that comes from a coach. So if you’ve been researching in circles for awhile now consider hiring someone to point out your blindspots and bring you some clarity. I can help when you’re ready.
Now do you want to know the number one most common barrier I see with almost all of my coaching clients?
Yep. Confidence. They have the skills, the money, the time, the knowledge and the focus to do everything they want. What they don’t have is a belief that it’s even possible. Over and over again I run into super smart, talented and resourceful women who have everything they need to move forward. They simply need a boost in belief and they’re off to accomplish it all.
And guess what? When we talk through their situation and I point out that they are ready, they have everything they need and they can start today, do you know what happens?
Tears, relief, big smiles, laughter.
The simple permission to begin and faith I have in them and their success is all it takes for them to move forward.
I can’t tell you how many emails I get from clients 24 hours after a session telling me about all of the action they’ve taken and even some of the immediate results that have returned already.
So here’s the thing – I don’t know your story, but I can guess that if you’re reading a blog about lifestyle design you know how to gather information. You’re resourceful and probably have everything you need to get started.
Take a deep breath, remind yourself just how ready you are and take just one next step. You can do it!
And if any of these barriers remind you of your situation, get in touch. This is what I help women overcome every single day.